My friends and mom won't stop bugging me to get a boyfriend!?

All my girl friends and I have grown up together, since we were born (literally, our parents knew eachother since they were teens and hence we all are best friends now), so we all share everything together and want the same thing and do the same things.





So anyways all my four girlfriends have boyfriends and they all seem happy most of the times. I mean, I do hear a lot of them fighting, and when we all have sleep overs (just the girls) they usually talk about bad stuff about relationships, and I always talk about the guys I think are cute or the guy I hooked up with (I dont have sex, I just play and have fun!). Of course we also talk about other things, BUT, it seems like everytime the subject about boys come up, they are ALWAYS nagging me about why I dont have a boyfriend, and how I should have one. They think it would be so good if all 5 of us could go on dates together, but the fact is all four of them go on dates and I tag along and we all have fun anyways! So I feel like there is no need. Like so what if it will be fun if we all went on a date together, dont we already have fun when its just me anyways? And my mom and her friends too wont stop bugging me either. Theyre like dont you want to find a nice boyfriend who will take care of you and take you out and buy you stuff, a guy you could see yourself being with? And I am like, I think you guys forget we are only 18!! Except for one, who wont turn 18 until December, but nevertheless I feel we are just too young to have a serious relationship!





And then my stupid friend comes out of no where and attacks me and says I am too insecure and I need to gain some confidence because I truly want a boyfriend but Im too scared, so instead I play it safe, by doing what i usually do when I go out. (which is this: I flirt, i kiss, i dance, i laugh, i'm wild! i like to have fun) but i seriously do not want a relationship.





I dont know if i should mention this but every guy that has ever wanted to date me i pretty much shrivel up and never want to see them again because i just ';feel'; like everything is ruined, that i cant be myself anymore.





What is wrong with me? Do I have an insecurity? Or is my reason legit (about how Im only 18 and I REALLY dont need a boyfriend now)? How do I tell my friends and mom to leave me alone? (A way that could possibly actually work)





Please no mean comments. PS: Nothing about bitching at my mom or telling her to **** off (because I love her so much shes given me everything.. and it wont work anyways) and nothing about finding new friends, because I would never trade my friends, they are just retarded sometimes, and I'm sure you guys can relate to that with your friends at one point in your life!My friends and mom won't stop bugging me to get a boyfriend!?
Wow! That was alot. Well I think if you don't want a boyfriend right now then don't have one. Its your choice and not your best friends or your mom's. Yes, your only 18 I would wait till your out of school to get a boyfriend. Because, sometimes you want to focus on school and not your boyfriend at points. And there is also some drama at times with having one and that and school don't also go together if you know what I mean. Nothing is wrong with you at all you just want to wait and find that one guy you want to spend the rest of your life with. Well how I would deal with your mom and friends are just smile and say yes and stuff or just tell them the truth and say that you just don't want one right now and you want to wait till your out of school and to find the perfect guy. I hope I helped and I wish you the best of luck.My friends and mom won't stop bugging me to get a boyfriend!?
Wow... I am like the opposite of that... I really want a boyfriend, and it seems like a guy never likes me... I mean yeah sure, like a regular friend, but not a boyfriend...
only you can change in yourself and gain confidence, before anyone else does, be yourself and go out there and just live do it, cant hirt to try new things'
You're legit. Youre JUST like my friend. I would send them actual letters- Like in the mail. Even your mom. That will definetly get their attention anyway and it should get them to realize that your serious. Write it very concisely that you DO NOT WANT A BOYFRIEND, DO NOT NEED A BOYFRIEND, and are perfectly capable of making your own desicions now. And that you're sick of hearing about it. You'll find one when you want one.


Make them feel a little guilty. Something like this:





It hurts my feelings that you don't trust me enough to let me make my own choices.





Or something like that.