My boyfriend and porn, facebook profiles, text messages. HELP!!!?

My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months he is 25.


I met him one night out at a club randomly we kissed and exchanged numbers and to this


day we both admit we never saw ourselves going anymore, but we ended up talking everyday


and then got into a relationship.





We both had jealousy issues because before him I was a single flirty party girl and I am


an insecure person so am paranoid, easily jealous etc.





2 month into the relationship we were in his room and he went to do something so I looked


over and saw his phone and decided to look at his messages really quickly. I found in is sent


folder a message to a girl saying '; I cant stop thinking about sitting on your face';


I put the phone down and sat there and almost died when he came back I asked him a about it


and he said he did it because he felt I was doing the similar things behind his back( which


is stupid because if he thought that he should of spoken to me about it.) Then he said


he did it because we had a big fight the night before and all day he was feeling crap(when


in factt the night before we were perfectly fine.)





I had done things behind his back in the first 2 months of the relationship but I never wanted


anyone but him were as that message indicates he wants another girl.


We fight over distance because he lived in the city and I live 2 hours away and get upset


most night because I hate being here and I guess I take it out on him.





the next 3-4 months we decent we had fight and good times, went out, gjealousse etc!





Then I was on his computer andecideded I would go through his history and found that


he had been looking at porn every single night for the last 2 months(that was as far as


the history went back) and he had been looking at photos of porn model girls


not just the average but this was daily and heaps of it.


There were also time he went on a site called teenchat.com ( he claimed that he went on there


for a joke and to start fights just to mess around.) yet his under name was ';daniel69';


There was so many girls profiles on myspace anface bookok about 12 a day and he looked


through there photos. even some were my friends profiles.


There walive camam a few times also.








I went phyco obviously and felt sickinadequateet, useless, hurt.


He said hwouldn'tnt ever do it again and that he was sorry that day he left his new job


to be with me and everything. then during the week he said hwasn'tnt looking at porn


when i would ask him over msn and then when i got to his out he deleted the 3 days of history


which was when I was not there. and denied he did he said hwasn'tnt on the computer.


then later told me he did delete it coz hdidn'tnt want me to be annoyed.





I dont understand why he did this to me when he could of got any type of photos


or talked dirty to me when i wanted to alot and we would fight ovre how i felneglecteded


but really he was just choosing internet sluts over me. he always tells me im the hottest


thing ever and that he is shocked he got a girl like me and it is true because i genuinely


dont think he could find someone as attractive as me. I just want to know why he did all this : (My boyfriend and porn, facebook profiles, text messages. HELP!!!?
You are both immature and shouldn't be in a relationship. You are immature because you betrayed his trust by doing God knows what for two months behind his back, you looked through his stuff without any reason, and also because you are still with him. He is immature for everything you said about what he has done, and he shouldn't be trusted.My boyfriend and porn, facebook profiles, text messages. HELP!!!?
I think YOU need to chill. you're being WAY invasive of his privacy and you really shouldn't do that to a person. I don't care if you're dating or not. Sure if you were married and you saw these things you could be angry, but seriously girl, you have some problems. work on your self-esteem and get over it.
don't take it personal. it's not a betrayal of you, he's just a guy.
I'm very sorry that you are in this situation. First of all you aren't really a victim in this situation as you did the same to him. You say that because of the text message you mentioned he is interested in other girls and I don't see it that way, I see it as this other girl wants him. I think you should know that just because he has a lot of girl friends on facebook and that he looked at their photos does not mean at all that he is interested in them or any less interested in you. As for the porn...most guys do it but I understand why you would be concerned and really the only way to sort that out is to speak to him about it. I know it will be hard but the only way to sort this out is to speak to him upfront about how you're feeling and ask him the questions you've asked here. If he is unwilling to give you a direct answer then perhaps there is reason for concern. I'm not sure if this is helpful or not, I've tried to be direct without hurting your feelings but if I have I'm sorry. Best of luck and I hope everything goes well for you.
you said you messed around for the first 2 months so thats what you get.. karma takes a while to catch up sometimes
This is not worth fighting over.


If you are fighting that often maybe you just need to break up with him