I am having major boyfriend issues! HELP!?

So my boyfriend and i have a really different relationship compared to most people so this might be hard for many to understand and to give me advice on. But we have been dating for almost a year and a half. Hes a Senior and im a sophomore in High School. We both love eachother very much. During our freshman year he gave me a promise ring and promised he would never leave me and that one day we would get married. We are very close. We go on trips with eachothers families all the time. We have sleepovers together. Hes basically my best friend and we do absolutely everything together and have so many fun memories. But we have broken up ALOT. its always me cause when we get into heated fights i just get so mad and i break up with him. It ranges from hours up to about a day before we get back together. So its nothing big. But about a month and a half ago.. He broke up with me. Basketball season had just started and hes on the same team as Harrison Barnes and all those guys. But he never gets to play so that bring him down and stresses him out alot. So i thought maybe that had something to do with it.His family said he was so depressed and would go home after school and go to bed. And wouldnt go out on weekends. They said wheneve he was with me he was happy again. so I did everything i could for a month and a half to get him back. He ignored me completly and some days he would randomly tell me he missed me. Eventually i got him back. We got back together about a week ago. We spent 2 days together and had the BEST time. But this weekend everything went down hill. he didnt talk to me. he wouldnt talk to me if i was having any problems. he just doesnt seem like he cares at all anymore. we always fight because i cant get him to stop saying rude mean and unecessary things to me. So today he finally contacted me saying ';what the **** did you do this weekend??'; he was mad thinking id gone out and cheated on him or something. we met up for lunch later today and he asked why i was so upset. I explained to him how i had been working hard to be a good supportive girlfriend but i get no effort in return. He kind of ignored me. And when i left he was really sad and didnt want me to leave. So i guess what im asking is WHAT THE HELL DO I DO! im so confused. I get all these mixed signals and this is just tearing me apart! please help me! and dont be too negative. i dont wan all my answers to be ';your too young'; or ';break up with that jerk'; i want advice on how to get him to be the sweet loving boyfriend who used to bust his *** to make me happy. how do i get him back?I am having major boyfriend issues! HELP!?
You seem like a great girlfriend. All you can do is be supportive of him. But he seems pretty heated about not being able to play on the basketball team. You should just give him some space for a while or youl drive him away (most guys hat pushy girls). Dont completley ignore him, and whatever you do DO NOT FLIRT WITH ANYINE IF YOU WANT HIM BACK! If he doesnt come crawling back to you then he is not the one. You two seem like a beautiful couple. Im a freshman and i recently dated a senior. But dont let him take advantage of you, that is one of the main reasons seniors go for younger girls. It seems like he want to know where you are 24/7 and you need space. I hope i helped!I am having major boyfriend issues! HELP!?
tell him how you feel again and how much this whole thing is killing you, and tell him you wanna help but you cant stay with him if hes going to be like that but just be persistent and make sure he knows your there for him and hes then only guy for you
Wow, your definitely a teenage girl:)
Talk to him alone
talk to him about it.
tell him how you feel.. if he doesnt understand im here for you ;)


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first make the information shorter, then maybe....maybe ill help. dang
Ok well I'm an idiot when it comes to relationships, but might as well give it a go! ur situation is hella complicated so i say...make sure that he understands that you love him, support him, but wants a little more appreciation. If he still doesn't open up a little, personally, I'd just dump him but idk.


Btw, maybe you should try to get his feelings straight and make sure that he really does still love you.
He sounds very immature. You make it seem like your making the effort but he isn't. If that's the case then you need to ignore him until he comes around to the fact that he needs you.





Let him come to you but until then you need to have your own life. Hang out with your friends and have fun. If it's meant to be then he'll make the effort to be with you, but you can't put your life on hold watiing for that to happen. I realize it's a tough time of year to be going through this and a lot of emotions are involved but you need to remain strong and you'll get through it.





I also know you don't want to hear this but you are young and a lot of boys will be coming in and out of your life. They'll break your heart and you'll break a lot of their hearts but never give up on finding the right person for you. Good luck
Read this book, He's Just Not That Into You. That will be the best thing for you. It's a quick read, and it's better you find out the truth now. Then you'll find someone who really wants to be with you, and doesn't make you question his affection. Trust me, this book will make you happy.
See, here's the thing, your best bet is probably to break up with him, try to remain friends, and get on with life. Sure, high school relationships can be cute and often there's a lot of ';We'll stay together forever,'; but you said it yourself, you guys have broken up a bunch of times. If he's just not that into you anymore, than there's nothing you can really do, you can't expect him to wake up one day and suddenly be the person that he was before.


Other than that, I suggest asking him what's wrong.
i really don't know the best advise i have for you is to break up with him because he just sounds like he has alot going on and is just really stresssed about something... maybe u should talk to him and ask him about it i truly don't know how to get him back to the old him he sounds like... he sounded like a great guy and i feel so sorry for u... good luck:)
to me, it seems like he just isnt into the relationship anymore, like maybe he fell out of love. but if he is really depressed about it then he didnt fall out of love, maybe he thinks you have. i think you just need to be like 'okay baby, heres the thing. it seems like you dont love me anymore. give me an honest answer, do you still love me?' if he says no, then im sorry hun but you are just going to have to leave it like that. there is nothing you can do then. im sorry, but its reality. iv been through this before with my ex. it sucks and it didnt work. im sorry :[





i wish you the best!


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The truth is you might not be able to get him back. People can change. Either way, it doesn't sound like a healthy relationship for either of you right now so the best thing I can suggest is staying apart (not just for a few hours or weeks), but having an actual long break from each other. That way you can both have time to yourselves to figure out what you really want in a relationship and if the other person is really right for you.
You said you spent all your time together and now things are going downhill. It sounds like both of you want to be with each other but your trying to hard. If he starts to ignore you or stuff just back off and let him come to you. If he is confrontational stand your ground and say I don't appreciate that. You earn respect by standing up for yourself. If he knows your not afraid to lose him he will respect that. Don't make decisions during stressful situations rather back away and think.
it's not a healthy relationship to go on and off, so control your anger dont break it off.


it looks to me that you two love each other alot, thats why after you're apart, you both can't take it anymore and go back. just dont break up anymore, and i believe he is very stressed, and you're doing your best to help him. you didn't do anything wrong, just be there for him like you always have. on other matters, something is bothering him deep inside, i don't think its you but he's taking it out on you which is bad. he shouldn't take it out on someone he loves but it happens. sit down and have a deep meaningful conversation with him to get to the bottom of this. you two are too important to each other to just give up now. hopefully i helped you with my answer %26lt;3 :]
Babe I'm a sophomore too. The seniors here in my area, they're all assholes that will try to dominate and take advantage of us. You can't get him back sorry but this seems to be the end. You've even explained to him and he does nothing in return, he's causing you pain and he knows this but doesn't do anything. Stop chasing after him he's not worth the chase anymore. You two had a good run but soon he'll go to college and live out in the adult world while you'll still be in school and trying to find your way in life. People change. People fall in and out of love, you'll find that out. He just fell out of love and it doesn't seem like he'll be coming back, you were a good girl to him but he's not responding so drop the not needed baggage. You'll find love again. Don't let him still hold you in a cage, go out and meet other guys you're not his possession! Don't give it, don't let him see that you're acting like a desprate girl either.


The guy worth your tears, shouldn't make them spill.
That is a tough situation girlie. Honestly, I'm going to have to say give him some space for a week. If he tries to contact you himself, politely converse with him. Let him know that you don't like that he is giving you mixed signals and tell him with a serious tone of voice that you are going to give him some space until he works his problems out. But that doesn't mean you guys stop dating. You guys have too much history to stop this now. Just don't give him way too much space to the point where he finds another girl. Guys can get stressed out with sports. Having a girlfriend can just pressure them to balance out things and you know that guys arent the best at multitasking. Time will heal everything. I hope that helps. XD
You need to meet up with him again and talk to him, and straight out tell him that what he's saying and doing is hurting you... And that if he doesn't change his ways or fix things that it may end up badly... He needs to understand that he can't just decide to be happy and do things at random times if he really wants to be with you.
My best advice is just to take it down a notch. Obviously, for awhile when you were trying to get him back and doing everything you could.. he wanted nothing to do with you. Then, as soon as you don't show him enough attention he sends you a message saying ';what the F...'; So sounds to me like he just wants to be wanted, considering he isn't getting any love from the basketball team. If you REALLY want him back then you need to show him no attention. You are basically letting him have his cake and eat his pie too. You miss him and yadda yadda yadda but he knows that. He needs to put forth the effort you are. Seriously, if he calls you this weekend saying he planned a beautiful picnic.. just say you are busy. Even if you are sitting on the couch thinking him. Make him miss you, and your friendship, and you will get him back. If not then it just was not meant to be. Good luck!
I THINK HES HAVING SOME EMOTIONAL PROBLEMS AND I THINK THAT HIM THINKING YOUR CHEATING ON HIM OR SUMTHING IS MAKING HIM WORSE I THINK U SHOULD SIT WIT HIM SUM WARE PRIVATE AND TELL HIM YOU REALLY LOVE HIM AND YOU JUSS WANT HIM TO BE HAPPY AND WANT TO HELP HIM WHEN HES STRUGGLING AND IF HES WILLING TO OPEN UP WITH YOU THEN BE WILLING TO DO WHAT IT TAKES FOR HIM TO FEEL BETTER IVE FELT THAT WAY BEFORE AND BROKEN UP WITH MY EX CUS OF THAT SOMETIMES GIRLS DONT HELP WITH THE PROBLEMS US MEN HAVE AND JUSS MAKE IT WORST SO THATS WHEN WE DECIDE TO NOT CARE ABOUT THEM..BUT STICK WITH HIM AND IF HE REALLY LOVES YOU AND WANTS TO MAKE THINGS WORK ...HE'LL OPEN UP


GOOD LUCK