Should We Try and Stop Her?

My younger sister (25) just graduated from college and has accepted a great position in an east coast state. Her boyfriend has taken a similar position, same company,same state, and is leaving 2 mos before her. The two plan two wed, and are a good couple. My mother has decided to leave with my sister, and take up residence in a city nearby my sister's and help her settle in, and because she needs ';time for herself.'; My pops does not wish to leave with my mom because after 22 years with the same govt job he's at last where he wants to be. He's worried that she wants to leave him for good because many times over their 30 yr marriage she's told him ';after (sister's name here) graduates from college, I am leaving you'; Basically pops thinks she's leaving for good, and shouldn't leave at all. She (mom) says that she needs this time to herself, in a new place, close to (sister), where she can be herself, and not mom. She's given us a time frame of one year gone, but all of us believe that a year will most likely become more. Pops believes that at last the time now is ';theirs'; now that all of us (3) have grown up and left home.


He also said at age 52, he still gets lots of attention from women, and none from Mom. He said ';fighting off these women will be hard with your mother's absence. All these years Ive been faithful because of love, and because your mother's been right here when I come home.'; Everyone in this household adores mother. She has been the cornerstone of the family since we became the family. The younger siblings have turned to me, the eldest, to figure something out because nobody wants her to go, and nobody wants to stop her because of all she's done for us. Mom's always been there, shared her wisdom, and has helped make each of us who we are today. We couldn't ask for a better mother...so who are we do stop her from doing something she wants when she's never asked us for anything other than to trust her, and allow her to show us how to lead great lives? Thanks for your time.Should We Try and Stop Her?
I don't think you should try to stop her. She may not be fulfilled in her marriage or maybe she is just burnt out from being there all the time for everyone. If I was you I might talk to her quietly to understand exactly where she is at and why she feels the need to do this but she does have the right to be happy.Should We Try and Stop Her?
Mom and Pops are mature enough to know what they want. Let them work things out themselves.
Your mother does not love your dad,and nothing she says will make me believe she does.She is purposely sabotaging her marriage and setting it on self destruct.She is being selfish.She can be herself at home with your dad.If not, who has she been all these years?What is it she wants to do that they can not do as a couple?


Your dad seems to love your mom but feels lonely and abandoned by her.