Boyfriend problems.......but this one is way more interesting.?

My boyfriend always argues with me, then after he tries to give me this talk about how he is sorry and he was right about so and so...... whatever thats not the problem.





the problem is in the past he has flirted with girls on myspace and he has talked sh!t about me to those girls too while we were dating.





he has even talked sh!t about me to one of his ex crushes.





when i am mad at him about something he will say something and i will make a smart remark about it usually relating to his past.





when i make a remark it is usually true too, but it makes him so mad he hits himself and even starts crying real tears! that is until i say i am sorry kiss him whatever.





i do that so he will stop acting how he is acting it works so far.





but what can i do to make him stop acting like a little kid???





It has gotten to where he has said that he thought Jessica Alba was hot hot in the past (which i can agree she is very beautiful).





well when i ask him if he still thinks she is hot or whatever he always denies it. starts giving me this guilt trip and slowly tries to make me look like the bad one.





i dont care that he thinks she is hot or not i just want him to tell the truth and not hide it, i had to squeeze it out of him tonight till he finally admitted he still thought that.





when we get in a fight he has gone as far as cutting himself, socking his self and even banging his head into the wall, also hyperventilating himself too.





i make smart remarks because it is the easiest way to get back at him for hurting me in the past.





what should i do to stop him from acting like a little kid?


all of your opinions on this situation are welcome. dont just say leave him it isnt that easy i need answers please!Boyfriend problems.......but this one is way more interesting.?
start ignoring him for a while like dont answer his phone calls and whenever you see him pretend you gotta go and just walk away if he runs after you puch him in the face and call him a fag!!Boyfriend problems.......but this one is way more interesting.?
walk away, you have your whole life to find someone else why waste your teenage years dealing with that. kick him to the curb and worry about how successful you want to be when you grow up, so he will be mad that he treated you like crap!!!!! There's always someone better!!!!!
1- That wasn't interesting


2- Don't fight over really stupid things like if Jessica Alba is hot


3- Don't date someone that self mutilates, because he might mutilate you instead


4- Myspace is a drama starter


5- Finish school then go to college and find someone more normal.
wow, your relationship sounds alot like mine. its really hard. its like the guy ALWAYS has to act like the 2 year old and be in control. you just need to tell him you're NOT his doormat and you're not gonna sit around like this forever. yeah it might piss him off but it'll give him something to think about.
make your the sh%26amp;t you hear is true.


if it's true, ask him why he did that to you.


if his reply isn't good im sorry to say this but break up with him.


you can't take care of him unless he changes.
The only problem I can see is that you haven't dumped this loser yet. He's clearly unstable and I'm sure you can do better. He needs professional help. You're 16 and aren't qualified to give it to him. Don't be a martyr.
my personal opinion is that u should try talkin to him about it. that probably isnt the easiest way but its the best way, if he doesnt try to help ur relationship (or at least try), u might want to try and break up with him
you need to take him to a doctor or a psychiatrist. It's not you, it's him. He needs serious help. %26amp; he may hate you for it now but he will thank you later. %26amp; youre relationship with him will improve greatly. good luck and be strong
not tryin to be mean, but get out before it turns into you getting hit, not him.
dont bring up stuff from the past that only makes it worst
dump him
he's shaping up to be quite the emotionally abusive one. i know it's not that easy, but you should get out while you still can.
so heidi and spencer. talk to him about itt!!
I'm sorry but he sounds like he is Way too immature for a relationship right now to the point of putting himself in danger. I'd break up with him until he can grow up. Sorry that's just my opinion Good Luck!
OMG I can't believe it. He is acting like a kid. He IS a kid and so are you. You will both grow up eventually.
do to him what he those to you.. he would see it hurts and stuff.. .
thats pretty cheezy situations you have got there girl.


holly cow your boy is a mess eh.


i mean, cutting himself and doing all those crazy things? :S


its totally fine with me if my man thinks some actress or a singer is hot. i mean its his opinion right, its not like he went and slept with them. its just he admires their body and beauty. its fine with me, cuz i like some hot guys as well. i love rob pattinson, it doesnt mean my guy should go and cut himself.


im sorry if im being rude, but just watch out from this guy.


ok he did a mistake in past, stop doing your smart remarks. thats not nice. guys can be stupid sometimes and say things they really dont mean, but if youre with him now ( means you forgave him) you shouldnt remind him about the past all the time.


but if he still keeps hurting you.. talk to him about it. make him see what he is making you feel like..


well, best of luck.



You're so young to be going through these problems and he is an idiot that needs help and fast. Child do u have a mother? or does his mom know he is like this? He's harming you more than you think he is and in the experiences that i know through family and friends, I think you should get away from him or you'll and up getting depression. He's not a good person and I hope u see that before its too late! u sound like a sweet girl and your so young dont date yet just learn from afar til ur ready...
I'm a 17 year old guy also. I have a word of advice. Unlike me and a few others, a large portion of 17 year old guys and people around that age will do that. We can be total idiots and ignorant fools. It's something you either have to ignore, look past, or be lucky enough to have someone lacking those... tasteless traits some of us have.





Anyways, self bashing my gender aside (heh), here is a short and simple answer to your problem - leave him. Hearing what your said and not hearing his side, I can't really say much else but that. He's not worth it. I know it's easier said than done, but some people need tough love. Perhaps a bit of space will teach him in his next relationship or if you were to get back together.





If you instead wish to give him more chances, perhaps talk to his parents. Perhaps get him to go to therapy. If he suddenly hits himself and cries with that... Unless you are exaggerating, he might need to get some professional help.





Most people I know of will talk of celebrities like that. Married or single. Dating or just together with someone.





And I repeat myself - it's easier said than done but if worse comes to worse, you need to leave him. Anyone of my friends I've talked to or people that I've listened to/read blogs on sometimes have the same problems - they feel that it's not easy to just leave the person - the reasons skyrocket - ';We've been together for so long';, or ';I'm close to his/her family';, or whatever. Whatever your reasons are there are probably an indefinite amount of ways to tackle them and go along as if there was no problem.





I hope this helps you somehow, and good luck.
oh girl this man is crazy he is a possible threat to you if you do break up. Seriously you need to tell him to stop acting like a baby or it is going to be over. you two are to young and he needs help he has anger problems. Be very cautious with this one good luck.
It sounds like there needs to be some major growing up to be done.I would and have ignored my other half when i had this problem.It totally drives him nuts.Seriously,when he makes the stupid remarks,just act like u didnt hear him,be the more mature one.Yes,its hard to ignore and not reply with a witty comeback but being ignored is a bummer.It will shock n confuse him so much he will eventually realize he is being a jerk n just quit....it wont happen overnight but it will happen.Jus be patient.He may even realize how immature hes being and decide to act like a big boy.Good luck!!!
hes very immature and you should just leave him alone. hes not for you fighting is too much and the distrust isn't worth it there are so many out there that are more grown up and really not nuts like he is.
Girl its hard to go about telling you how I honestly think you should do for him to stop acting like that. I dated a guy almost like how your boyfriend acts a few years ago but instead of hitting the wall he would hit me. Your man probably needs a one and one conversation with you without the smart remarks. Leave the questions about all these girls alone. He probably thinks you don't trust him the way he does with you thats why he goes crazy. It may not be you it can be the problems he has at his house which he's trying so hard to not keep it in.
well i was gonna say dont leave him because if he hurts himself when u fight i dont know what would happen if you left him, but then i read the end and see you already said that.





well i really dont know what to day because you cant change really how a person acts and if you talk to him about it it may turn into a fight. so maybe you could talk to him about it but slowly and gently. i know you probably were being patient but like maybe even more patient. or maybe he might have to see someone? i dont know. i am sorry he is hurting himself. i think he may also be a little over dramatic though.
I'd say stop the smart remarks. He's obviously very sorry for it. He sounds like a guy who likes to tease. Just stop the remarks





And I'm sorry hun but he's not acting like a little kid. He might have some problems he needs to get looked at by a doctor.





You want to get back at him for the past? It's in the past! LET IT GO! Once again sorry but you're sounding like a real B*tch right now. Just my personal opinion.
stop nagging him...what's the point in forcing him to say that jessica alba is hot? what's that supposed to solve? She is hot...now what. You encouraged a pointless argument. and from reading your story it seems like you do that alot. if you know that he will result with bringing harm to himself...why do you push him needlessly? you should be supporting him...finding him help to deal with his self harm issues. instead you pick at his insecurities and his past because you know that you can upset him that way. you aren't doing him any favors...all you are doing is trying to make him feel as bad as you do. the question you should be asking is how you can change your behavior to be a better friend, let alone girlfriend. not how to get him to stop acting like a little kid.
Hi. So, I was reading other peoples answers before answering myself and a lot of them are telling you to get out while you still can. I must say, I'll have to agree. I know you love him and you care about him, you wouldn't be with him if you didn't. But your both young, and if he's hurting himself in any way (which he is) you need to tell somebody. You need to tell his parents, one of his relatives, someone who can help him. Because cutting and hitting yourself isn't good. If you care about him, you'll tell someone. Or, at least tell him to stop hurting himself because in reality he's only hurting the people that he loves and love him.





Trust me. I have a BEST friend whose like a sister to me, and when I found out she was hurting herself I was crying. Because it hurts. What if he cuts himself to the point where he's in the hospital. What if he gets carried away? So, before you can help your relationship you need to help him first.





And don't leave him or break up with him just yet because he'll need you through all of it. Be there for him. Stop making smart remarks at him because it doesn't get you anywhere it only hurts him.





Most importantly, you should sit down and talk to each other. Tell him how you feel and make sure he tells you how he feels.





And also, I'm 19. I've been with my current boyfriend for 2 1/2 years. We've fought over stupid things like is Jessica Alba is hot or whatever, but in the end those things shouldn't matter. All it is is reassurance. So tell him, ';yeah, she's hot but don't you think I'm hotter.'; Haha! Seriously.





And the whole myspace thing- myspace causes a lot of drama. Trust me! Its caused some issues for my boyfriend and I. But you know what? Its just online flirting. It doesn't matter. It doesn't mean anything. So don't trip about it, alright?





Now, if this doesn't help... just let me know and I will try to use my personal experiences to help you out.





Good luck!


Veronica
He needs to see a christian counselor that believes in exorcism. You should also look into dis-associative identity disorder. God can help him I have experienced those kinds of problems with someone and I know God the Father of Jesus can help. God Bless.





Your boyfriends battle is a rough one and I can assure you He is maybe a compulsive liar. He is way afraid to lose you. He may be trying to control you and not want you to have other friends he has the potential for abuse. He has self hate issues and was probably emotionally and or physically abused at some time in his precious life. If you are still in school have him speak to the school counselor. God bless.