I've been fighting with my boyfriend about the same thing over and over?

My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship. We talk a few times per day, but the most important time of the day is right before I go to bed. Up until recently, we've been talking almost everyday before I go to bed (which is normally around 11pm since I get up at 7am four times or more per week).





In the last month or so my boyfriend has become very active in going to the gym, and don't get me wrong, I think that's a very good thing for him to do. The only problem is his time schedule. He goes to the gym late (around 8:30 maybe 9:30, sometimes as late as 10) and stays there for like three hours. When he goes to the gym, I don't get to talk to him at night or he tries to call late and it interrupts my sleep.





I've gone off on him multiple times for it, but it doesn't seem like he becoming any less inconsiderate. I mean really, how hard is it to go to the gym earlier in the day? Or if it doesn't fit with your schedule, how hard is it to stay for 1 or 2 hours as opposed to 3?





I've confronted him about this time and time again, and it has caused multiple fights (and he's sorry and promises not to do it again) but no matter what I say or how pissed off I get he continues his pattern of behavior. I don't want to break up with him about something so stupid, but I honestly don't know how to get him to stop doing this. Please help... what can I do to get him to start being more considerate?





PS: Yes, I've considered the possibility that he's cheating on me (and even confronted him with it), but I honestly don't believe that he is.I've been fighting with my boyfriend about the same thing over and over?
He obviously misses you. If you are sure he is loyal to you than that is a good sign. If he seems to have a thick skull about this, don't blame him. He simply misses your voice. Try to see this from his perspective. Perhaps he calls you anyway to calm himself down and make sure you are safely at home? Perhaps his time zone it different? If you really need the sleep than here's what I think you should do. Wait until you two talk during the day and he is not busy for a while and just discuss it. Work something out so that everyone is happy. Luckily for you this is a very minor problem in terms of the relationship. This is easily resolved. :) Good luck!I've been fighting with my boyfriend about the same thing over and over?
Tell him that it is very important to you to talk to him before you go to bed tell him what it means to you
He is not going to the gym. He's clearly cheating on you. Break up with him and get a boyfriend near you. It will help you in the long run :)
Stop yacking and complaining and Start ignoring his phone calls. Period !!! If he really want to talk to you, he will be more considerate and change his schedule up a little bit.
Hon, long distance relationships don't work very well. I think you should move on.
I really think that you should move on... sorry!):
Does he have a job in the morning?? I'm just curious cause maybe he works in the morning then come home and relax little bit and then went to the gym to stay in fit. I've had same situation before. My ex-bf was working, then went to the gym and sometimes he used to call me before he went to gym. I never believed that he was cheating on me if he ';went to the gym'; for another reason then I will be freak out and knowing of whats going on in his life. He should not be keeping secrets from me.Anywhere, found out if he is keeping a secret from you or not but I think your bf is keeping something from you but I could be wrong. If I would you, i would call him and said how was ur day and just say something what you used to talk about but never mention about why hes not calling you and the times cause then both of you will be freak out and yelling for no reason. that is bad. just tell him that you miss him so much and wish that you could talk to him more than he does gym. Just find out of whats going on in his life and trust him.
Now, I'm going to tell you this out of personal experience and I might be wrong, I probably am wrong and I hope I am, but there is a chance I'm right.





I was in a relationship with a guy, we only got to see each other on the weekends so talking in the afternoon and night was very important. Later in the relationship he started having things to do. Like he would go out to eat with friends, and have to help his parents or have something else to do. He wasn't cheating on me, but he was losing interest. I hope it doesn't happen with you but it's a chance. Good luck though dear.
If you don't think he is cheating, why bring it up? Sounds like you crave the rage to be honest.


I've been through somehing exactly like that including long distance and it messed things up and did us in. My Advice is that you should forget the arguments because one times he's just going to honestly say **** this girl I'll find better. And he will find better.





Don't set yourself up for heartbreak. Just stop it. I should have stopped. Don't make my mistakes.
In advance I'm going to say, 'I'm sorry'. I usually try to give very uplifting advice, but I have to advise what I truly feel.





Your boyfriend may not be seeing someone else now, but he will be soon.





You are calling him inconsiderate when you are being a pushy, naggy, whining b...ch. You've ';gone off on him multiple times'; for going to the gym when he's most comfortable? Who do you think you are, telling him what time he can do things? You talk to him ';a few times a day'; and you're still not happy? Why is YOUR schedule more important than his?





A word of warning: if your guy isn't a wimp he's going to replace you faster than you can say ';lights out';.
It might be time to reconsider your relationship. If he's continuously inconsiderate now, what do you think he will be like later on, say after you're married??? Life between two people is a constant give and take anyway and it doesn't seem to me you're asking too much of him. I can't say he's cheating but he's certainly not trying to keep your relationship on a very respectful supportive basis. Next thing you know you'll be changing your phone number to unlisted.
Is there anyway he can call you BEFORE he goes into the gym? Then you will still be able to talk to him.





People.. just because its a long distance relationship, doesnt always mean they are cheating. I was in one, and I knew damn well that he wasnt cheating. have faith in the person your with. Sometimes its easier for people.