Girls....do you have a PROBLEM with your husband/boyfriend PLAYING VIDEOGAMES?

my husband and i have a sorta bad history with videogames....one game in particular caused alot of problems through out our relationship....we have been together for 8 years. He just plays alot when he starts it up again....then i find myself starting a fight over how much he plays...he cancels the account....stops for a while..then it comes up again! Today he asked to play again....when i said no this time...that i dont want im to bc of the fights we have....he got mad....HELP! Do any of you girls have these problems?Girls....do you have a PROBLEM with your husband/boyfriend PLAYING VIDEOGAMES?
FINALLY, I can rant to someone else about this! lol. There's this one game that he plays ALL OF THE TIME. But I don't feel like I can say anything because he does everything I ask him to do for me, he still pays me attention (he has taught me how to play the game believe it or not), and I wouldn't say he's obsessed with it, and he works hard so I let him play his game, but I understand completely where you are coming from. I think if it is bothering you that much to the point where the two of you are arguing maybe you could set a time limit or an amount of time that he is allowed to play?Girls....do you have a PROBLEM with your husband/boyfriend PLAYING VIDEOGAMES?
My boyfriend plays A LOT of video games and I found the easiest solution is to play them with him. I have fun, he has fun, and we spend time doing something we both enjoy together. If you do not enjoy video games then I suggest you two work out a schedule - he can play X amount of times a week for X amount of hours and the rest of the time is yours - it's not fair to monopolize his time and not allow him to play ANY video games, but it's not fair to you if all he does is video games.
well, my fiancee and I don't have big fights but he has a playstation 3 and plays it when I'm not around, but when he does play it when I am around and I want his attention, I just whine or do stupid things to distract him, but if that doesn't wotk,, I just leave him, but later take revenge by doing something when he wants me to pay attention to him, I guess what you two need is a discussion on how and why the game is affecting things.... Make a schedule for it and etc...... one way to stop making a fight turn into a big fight is not to feed it. meaning just stop, ignore or do the opposite of argueing
maybe you both can compromise! maybe you can allow the games but with limits. (example: he can play the games from 2pm-5pm m-f, or play only when i am not home, when i come home it is our time) i am not sure about your situation, but i am sure you can think of something. I have heard from my mother that you end up having to re- train the men as they revert back to child hood, and they do this often, i am not married, but might as well be...lol! Good Luck, and i am sure you will figure it out!
this has happened to me. I assume you are talking about xbox live or something like it. I get how you feel when we first got the xbox he was on it every second he wasnt at work. When it came down to it he just got bored of it. That and i started playing too. If you include yourself in he has to include you lol. I play by myself when he isnt home. Just let him know how done you are with it. Trust me i have thrown that xbox 360 on the floor more times then i can count lol
I do struggle with this. My boyfriend plays lots of games online and sometimes I want him to spend more time with me.


But then I realize that there are so many worse things he could be doing. He is home with me and enjoying himself. I would like to find a hobby that I enjoy just as much.


Sometimes I play games next to him or I'll get interested in what he's playing. That makes him communicate more with me and when I ask if he'll watch a movie with me, he's more likely to say yes...rather than if I sat and nagged him.


I feel your pain....but I accepted it as something I am able to live with
I HATE videogames. I was lucky enough to fall in love with and marry a man who also hates them. He would rather be outside or doing something productive.





I feel sorry for you, though. Life is too short to sit around on your butt glued to a TV or computer. Get out and live and enjoy the spring!
nope sorry, my hubby works a long hard week and if he wants to sit and play video games to wind down then he can, all i ask is that he makes sure our daughter is in bed 1st and that he isn't on it for hours after that i see no problem, lighten up
LMAO he ';asked'; to play again. He he. At least you have him asking.





I don't care if my husband plays video games, as long as he is still a Dad and Husband and not stuck to the computer the entire time he is home.
i dont mind my bf playing viedo games but his mates then come and he doesn lisen to a word i say
I won't date a man who plays video games. I want to date a man not a kid.
excuse me, he's the man so he makes the rules.
I'm thankful I d铆dn't marry a kid...video games are for kids or boys who haven't grown up yet.
What's wrong with playing video games? Do you mean online interactive games?
Here is a tip, just call it experience He asked you if he could play again? The fact that he asked you if he could play a game means that the guy loves you or he would simply play it anyway. He still has respect for you or he never would have asked.








Ok, I am not attacking you at all. I realize that some guys play videogames to excess and this seems to be the issue. I think you and him need to sit down and discuss what is a reasonable amount of time per week/day for him to play. You seem intelligent or at least your grammar is a lot better than most. LOL





I remember a few years ago a book coming out about the video game Madden NFL football and the widows it created upon release. It was about the guys that did nothing but play online video games once the game was released in August. It was created so that the women in their lives could understand what makes them play the game. You might want to check that out since it sounds like you are a ';videogame widow'; when the game gets released





N down below has a great way of handling the issue.
Its addictive, I am a woman and I did that to my husband. I would get so caught up in playing the online game, that I was ignoring him. He fussed and I did get mad originally. But I stopped to think how much time I was wasting instead of spending it with him. All you can do is continue to put your foot down about how you feel, and let him know it is because you love him and want to do things together rather than separate.





It truely is an addiction, I used it to escape from reality and work. I wouldn't get angry with him, just continue to explain it to him how you feel about it.





I did get my own desserts though when he went hunting all the time, I realized how much we didn't get to spend together.





Edit: I played World of Warcraft with Ventrillo, those headsets can be extremely addictive because you can talk to others.





Edit again: Forgot to add, after my husband told me how he felt and I realized what was happening, I uninstalled the game on my pc, and threw away the game so I couldn't reinstall it. I couldn't just play for an hour, it would always turn to 3-5 hours. I was a junkie lol, but did break free from it.
My husband is a game junk. I went to him with a plan that I thought was good and he went for it. He has a certain TIME to play games.Before that plan my husband and I never went to bed at the same time. In the plan I put we must go to bed together and I would not interrupt him doing game time but I do anyway.Anything that needs to be done around the house must be completed before he start playing. If I want his attention before game time is up I will start kissing on him or seat on his lap. I stop fussing. Now he will stop before game time will end and sometimes he will ask me why you did not come and kiss on.If he breaks the rules he will loss a game night. I did not put anything in the plan about if interrupt him LOL.





I hope this helps!!! Stop fussing and think of other thing to do in a good way to get his attention. I
My husband loves to play games on his 360. His favorite right now is Gears of War 2. I hate it! It's so irritating and when he plays he gets so agitated. He starts cursing and yelling at the game (rarely at me). It bothers me so much that he tries to play only when I'm not around. I've tried asking him to just not play that game since he doesn't get that way with any other game, but he says it's the best one. After trying so many things to get him to stop, I finally said that I won't get mad if he plays... but the condition is that the first time I hear the F word out of his mouth it gets shut off. He hasn't gotten too worked up since then.. so it's working so far. He sometimes would rather stay home and play than go out, but we sat and had a talk a couple weeks ago now and I told him how it makes me feel neglected that he would rather play than go out with me. Now he takes me into consideration and only turns it on when he knows we have nothing to do that night.


You should just sit down with him and talk about it. Then when he brings it up, just tell him remember that conversation we had on such and such date? Well, we decided you wouldn't do that anymore. If he argues, then ask him how he would propose a better compromise.
No. My spouse has a life and a job. However, my husband is into football. Football season causes issues sometimes. Sunday I turn into a football widow. He runs off with his friends and I'm stuck at home with our 3 year old. I've come to understand and accept his love for football after 17 long years. I used to hang out with his friend but now I spend the time with our son instead. He only goes out during nap time now and usually only goes out once or twice a month instead of every weekend.





My suggestion. Talk to him about a happy medium. Video games are something he enjoys and he is at home. He is not out drinking or cheating or anything like that. Tell him that if it starts to affect your relationship then the games are over. If he can't manage his time on the pc then he shouldn't be on it. Or he should only be on it when you are not around.
When my husband gets too into playing his games and spends time with them over me, I do have a problem with it. He has done this a few times in the past and I had to talk to him about it. Now he'll play for a few hours a day, but he'll stop if I ask and he makes sure to spend plenty of quality time with his son and I.





I think your husband is being selfish, but here's how he's taking it -- he thinks that he should be able to play a game if he wants to because he finds it enjoyable, and that he should be able to play it (is it WOW or something like that?) and that you're being selfish asking him not to do something he enjoys. And you are seeing that if he starts up again, he will just go back to playing too much and the arguing will start. So I would say try and compromise. Tell him that he can sign back up but that he is limited to X hours a day, and that after he's spent that time he has to quit for the day and spend time with you. If he breaks the time limit X many times, he has to cancel his account. Something like that might work! Good luck to you both!