Fighting with boyfriend of 1.5 yrs. Over stupid stuff or jokin around taken wrong. How to stop/avoid/work out?

I read this from an answer posted with a similar question. How does one lose the desire to stop feeling the need to be right?





You can stop arguing by being loving, and practicing love. Now, if he can't do that too, then your doomed for a dysfunctional relationship absent of love. And you can do better. You argue with each other because you are both trying to be right, and to control the direction of the energy between you two, in the form of attention. So, when you stop trying to be right, and have it go your way (him too), you can stop arguing.Fighting with boyfriend of 1.5 yrs. Over stupid stuff or jokin around taken wrong. How to stop/avoid/work out?
Bad way for me to start this, but I will admit 1.5 years is alot of investment, though should it not work out who have tens of times that left to enjoy in life...


Now on a better way to help you, Don't try to change it.


Don't try to change him or the argument or the place and time.


Remember that now you know you want things different so next time, just stop and argue with yourself for a moment instead of him.


Remind yourself how you want it to be and then be that person.


Eventually he'll come around and see that you want a ';happy relationship'; and he can either join you or...


Hope that helps. :)Fighting with boyfriend of 1.5 yrs. Over stupid stuff or jokin around taken wrong. How to stop/avoid/work out?
I think, fighting is another way to love each other..more you fight more you have love in your relationship.
if you both want to be right, try to agree that you were both right in your prespective. there is a such thing as fighting fair, that means you talk don't shout, you can even whisper, so you know that he will Have to listen. next. when telling your part, he cannot inject his portion. have someone there to monitor this. before another fight agree that its ok to disagree. that's what real respect is. when you feel a fight coming on, write about how it make you feel, and what you think brought it on. give it to your man, when you hand it to him give a compliment. then let him read it. ask him to do the dame thing so you can read his true feelings instead of yelling.
Him not letting go is his problem. He probably has an ego-related issue.





There is a saying that when couples fight, they would have stronger relationship, but that's not true.





If either one of you can't let things go or surrender personal pride, then the relationship doesn't have much of a chance to work out on the long run because then one would always be taking, the other would always be giving.
You can lose the desire to stop being right when it is more important to save your relationship than to be right. Needing to be right typically means that you are holding onto your ego and you don't want it to be hurt. Men generally have this problem more than women, but we all suffer from it since we all feel that our point of view is correct most of the time. My thoughts are that you two have similar personalities and you are both used to being the strong-headed, determined individual that doesn't like to back down from an argument. This can be detrimental to a relationship and I would suggest that you both go talk to a counselor about it. A 3rd perspective can help open a lot of opportunities that may not have ever been brought up before, or if they were brought up, it happened in an unhealthy environment (an argument at home). As long as you two keep communicating and working towards a common goal, you will probably be able to figure it out. I would suggest that you both talk about the importance of losing your egos with each other. Besides, what's the point of having an ego in a relationship? It only hurts it. Forget about the immediate satisfaction of being right and look at it as if ';is this argument and my being right really going to matter 10 years from now?'; Good luck!