What to do when your boyfriend doesnt want to listen to you?

My boyfriend and I don't have major problems aside from sometimes miscommunicating. These miscommunications often leads to verbal fights, which doesn't allow me to control my emotions and when this happens I burst out in tears. While he knows this happening, he tells me I give him bull ****, I *****, whine and act like a child (I'm 25, he's 29). We've been together for 3 years and that main problem I have with him is his attitude towards me. I used to be the one who would talk like whatever to guys and now my bf is that one talking me like and he won't stop. How can I regain the confidence of being able to talk to him however I want whenever he piss me off? I don't disrespect him the way he does, but he feels that the reason he talks to me in such way is because I nag and I don't know when to quit. I look forward to helpful feedback. Thanks in advance.What to do when your boyfriend doesnt want to listen to you?
Finny Macgee whoever you are (the first answer), s h u t it!you seem like an immature man who thinks women should just be quiet and let men control the world.





Now my fellow ''sister'' with similar problem.





It's very hard to get men listen to you, well some of them actually do listen, but many don't.


I found myself in so many situations where i would tell my boyfriend something really important for me and he would ''listen'' but next thing i ask him about what i said and he would not know anything.





It is frustrating because you feel like he is not listening to you = he doesn't care about you and what you have to say. That leads to then you repeating yourself which in men's eyes = nagging, whining, being annoying.





If men only tried to listen to women the first time, THERE WOULD NOT HAVE TO BE THE NAGGING BIT AT ALL..but surely they will get back on me screaming and fighting that that's not True...whatever! i am almost 30 and i know how you lot operate.





What i suggest is to sit down with him and talk to him. say that you don't want to come across and nagging but you feel like you are not being heard which leads to repeating yourself.


If he doesn't listen and is still disrespecting you by telling you off, maybe you are with the wrong man.





There are guys out there who will listen to you and lok after your needs and feelings





GOOD LUCKWhat to do when your boyfriend doesnt want to listen to you?
That's a HUGE important part of any happy successful relationship. Communication. Simple, honest and open communication. If he's shutting you down and refuses to hear your side of things or vica versa, then I would end this relationship. Why waste more time on unhappiness? Neither of you seem to be happy together under the surface and isn't that a pretty big sign?
As you know good communication is essential to having a good relationship. If this has been going on for a long time, maybe there are some deeper issues between you that need to be dealt with. Fighting ';fire with fire'; is not going to improve things.
You sound really annoying; like one of those women who wants to talk for talking's sake despite having nothing to actually say Just white noise with no meaning. He doesn't want to hear your bullshit. Nobody does. Stop nagging him.
So the issue here is listening
Do you not believe some relationships just don't work? This sounds like one of them. Move on!
sorry i dont know =)
Really, he has problems controlling his behavior. Just because you may ask him to do something or ';nag'; him it doesn't give him any right to speak to you that way. I would tell him that the needs to get it under control, or that's it. I'm sure you would be much happier without the stress of worrying what his actions are going to be when you just ask him something. As for regaining your confidence, try and surround yourself with supportive people, who will listen and I am sure they would agree that you are not doing anything wrong, and don't deserve to be treated that way. Anyone would be emotional when they are being talked down to over, and over again. Just realize that you deserve to be treated better.


Hope this helps!
guys dont like nagging and bitching. guys are simplistic and look for simplistic answers. for example you ask a girl omg this girl wore the same shirt as me at work! what should i do!? should i confront her and tell her to stop what she is doing...and the girl says omg i cant believe she would do that you should confront her! the guys response is ok dont wear the shirt anymore. case closed. dont make things a big deal, talk calmly and you will get your answer. the minute you get emotional is the minute he stops listening and all he hears is blah blah blah....be simplistic. hey i dont want to fight about it but this is how i feel and i want it resolved. lets get something going here so it doesnt happen again...i feel like its pointless to fight when we can resolve this easily. if he begins to fight with you, stay calm i know thats hard to do, but if you stay calm then he looks like the jack***. and he will realize it too. if he still just wants to pick fights without resolving it calmly then thats an issue. and you need to walk away, and if he loves you enough he will want you back and resolve his issues. hope that helped!