Should i tell my boyfriend i cheated on him in the beginning of our relationship? [please mature answers only]?

Me and my boyfriend have been together for a long time now, but this is just eating me up inside and i really need some answers to help me feel better. i love my boyfriend with all heart he completes me and he is my everything. in the first month of our relationship i had went out with my 'bestfriend', her boyfriend, and her boyfriends friend. she told me to tag along with them so her boyfriends friend wouldnt be too bored so i did. well the whole time i was out with them the friend kept trying to hit on me but i just kept telling him to stop because i have a boyfriend but he didnt. also my bestfriend and her boyfriend were trying to pressure me into kissing him and stuff too. they kept saying it doesnt matter its not lilke you been with your boyfriend for a long time anyway(some bestfriend right? :[).by the end of the night me and my boyfriend got in a fight over the phone, and out of anger i kissed the friend! it was so stupid of me and i regret it so much! i didnt kiss him because i liked him or because i wanted to i just did it because i was mad that night, later that night i let him hold my hand and i let him kiss all up on my neck, but our lips only actually touched that one time (i know that doesnt make it any better but it makes me feel better =/). it was so stupid and immature of me i would do anything to take it back but i cant. my boyfriend is my world and i would never want to hurt him. this was the beginning of our relationship when my feelings for him werent as strong. i would NEVER do anything like that again! should i tell him? should i jeperdize our relationship and friendship for something so dumb that happened a long time ago? i think if i were to tell him, it would be even worse because of the fact i kept it from him for so long. or should this just be my little secret? i know if my boyfriend cheated on me in the start of our relationship i wouldnt want to know. it would hurt me so badly. by the way hes 19 and im 18.


i actually learned a lot after that night. i learned how much i really care about my boyfriend because of how torn apart i was after i realized what ive done. it all just made me think a lot. please guys help me. i need positive answers i dont need to feel worse.Should i tell my boyfriend i cheated on him in the beginning of our relationship? [please mature answers only]?
Let it go. It was early in the relationship. You didn't have feelings for this person. Your best friend and her boyfriend were trying to start something and she obviously wasn't your best friend or she wouldn't have pressured you. It happened out of anger and you didn't mean it (don't ever do it again ... talk with him before screwing up) and you will only make it worse by bringing it up. It will mess with his head. Regardless of what another person said ... It's not wrong to tell you to let it go. Do you want to jeopardize the relationship now? Stop worrying. I don't care about my wife's past friends/lovers. I married her for me ... not them and I don't have time to worry about what occurred in the past. The fact that she wanted me is all I need. The fact that he wants you is all you need. (smiling) .....Should i tell my boyfriend i cheated on him in the beginning of our relationship? [please mature answers only]?
the first month of a teenage ';romance'; does not equate to a lifetime commitment. maybe your reading to many cosmo mags,, let it go and get over it.
just leave it alone... you aren't married and didn't vow to be faithful. No big deal. You are putting too much into it.
too complicated.





if you tell him he will never trust you again and that's a fact.
It is a mistake from the past. Don't tell him , let it go
Let it go...this was very early in you getting to know your BF and should not be eating away at your heart.
You also learned what not to do, such as allowing peer pressure to make choices for you. Since (I'm guessing here) you've not done this since that time, I would say that it's best forgotten. You would not have learned these lessons if you didn't have that experience. Try to stay focused on your relationship and your future together, that's what's important now. Whats done is done. You're a better person now for knowing this about yourself.
Did you sleep with this friend or just kiss. If it happened a long time ago like in the beginning of your relationship then he should forgive you if he really cares for you but then again maybe you should just let it be after all you can't rewind the clock back, and it was only kissing, not like you slept with him. now if you had slept with him I might say you should definitely tell him, but do what you think is best
Forget about telling your present boyfriend. You did not do anything wrong. After all you were not married were you ? Dont lay this on your boyfriend, it will only hurt him and make him unsure of you. That is not fair.Nothing can be gained by a confession. Keep Mum
Let it be ...........





Why do young ones keep posting in the marriage and divorce section???





No offence bu these little high school romances have nothing to do with this catergory.
1) It was too early in the relationship for that to really count.


2) It doesnt seem anything serious happened.


3) Why are you thinking about it now?


4) Never tell him about it. It seems pointless.
A few stupid kisses that you regret, aren't worth risking your relationship over. Don't risk hurting him to unburden yourself so YOU feel better. That guilt is well deserved and hopefully will continue to be a deterrent to such behavior in the future.





Keep the behavior to yourself, learn your lesson, and remember that what goes around, comes around. Karma doesn't forgive or forget.





Stop making yourself crazy over something you did long ago, that wasn't as bad as it might have been.
i say you actually let him read this. in person you may not be able to sell it like this. this was well written and gets your point across, and he really cant interrupt you while reading lol





you sold your point to me. if this happened to me id be pretty pissed and id keep an eye on you a little more than i used to, but if its ';tearing you up inside'; then its worth it.
It depends, Would you be able to be with him living and loving on a lie a kiss or hand hold is classed as cheating.


Ask your self would you want to know?


how would you feel if that was him?


do what ever you feel is right hope this helps.
one thing for sure it might jeopardise your relationship with him if you tell him.learn from your mistake and never do this to him again, and maybe him also,given the chance , wouldnt want to know if you cheated on him.. .





another point I'd like to point out is that many of the answerers say '; its not wrong';..Jeez where do they think its not wrong ? - im not judging you- , but normally common sense people know that cheating is bad , and should not be treated as '; its not wrong';, even at the start of a relationship.when you're with someone , you're supposed to have at least a minimum respect for then , right?... I'm not saying this to make you feel bad,its not about you , buts its just about the general trends of the answers is kinda odd.