Question about another girl liking my boyfriend.....?

just as a warning, this is pretty long, but i'd greatlyyy appreciate it if you would read it and give me your advice..?








okay, to start off with, i am crazy about my boyfriend and he is crazy about me. we've been dating 6 months, and i'd say we have a very healthy relationship. I never had any reason to doubt him until this one girl came into the picture, and ever since then, i've been super uneasy about her.





well, i live in texas, my boyfriend lives in ohio, and this other girl (lets call her suzy) lives in colorado. I know you're probably thinking theres no way anything could happen, but we all attend the same church, and our church has alot of get-togethers. it was at one of these get togethers that i met suzy. my boyfriend and suzy have been friends for several years, and normally i know not to overreact about my boyfriend having friends that are girls. well, this girl just made me feel uneasy from the beginning. she is quite a bit younger than him (he is almost 20, i'm 17, and suzy is 15). i feel a little funny for being so worried about such a younger girl. that, and the fact that i dont want to be an overly controlling girlfriend who tries to stop her boyfriend from hanging out with certain friends, made me kind of push it out of my mind. but at this trip that i met her, she was constantly texting him, (i mean CONSTANTLY) and all around him all the time, and it got to the point where i kind of exploded. i know i made a mistake by not talking to him about it sooner, but ya. he has reassured me that she is JUST a friend, and i want SO badly to believe him....but i dont a million percent yet. he deleted texts from her when i asked to see it (the day we got in a huge fight)..and that right there worried me alot.





well anyway, we're back home and for the most part everything has blown over. i love my boyfriend, and i dont think anything would ever happen with him and another girl. he's not that kind of guy. but this weekend, i found out, suzy is flying to ohio to see him and some other friends there. even though i dont think anything will happen, this makes me really nervous. just everything about this particular girl makes me uneasy, and i dont know how to deal with it.





any suggestions?!? i know i need to trust my boyfriend and i do, but this girl just rubs me the wrong way. any other girl i dont get this feeling about.....please help me? i dont want to freak out to the point of driving my boyfriend away eventually. but i dont want to just try to ignore being uneasy about it again either..cause last time that led to a big fight. my boyfriend knows she makes me uneasy, and he understands that and offers to not text her or anything, but once again i dont want to be that controlling crazy girlfrined.





please, i need advice?Question about another girl liking my boyfriend.....?
i think it is always hard when you live apart - insecurities have a way of growing more when theya re mixed with feelings of missing someone, wondering what they are doing, wishing you could be there etc.





i think that it is important to tell your guy how you are feeling as he will be the best person to put your mind at rest.





you won't look controlling as long as you approach the discussion the right way.





either next time you see him (it is better in person) or on the phone wait until a good moment when you are both being affectionate and sweet to each other. then say something like ';i miss you so much when we are not together. don't laugh but i have even found myself feeling jealous about when other people get to see you - just because i wish it was me!'; this way he will feel flattered and may even say he feels the same about you etc. this gives you an opening to say ';I know it is silly, but i feel a bit uneasy somethimes about your friendship with Suzy - wow I must really care about you to feel jealous about something like that!';





ie - play it down, keep it light but start the conversation. that way together you can come up with boundaries you agree on - like you don't mind if he hangs out with Suzy ina group or for a coffee etc, but you would feel uneasy if they spent lots of time alone together etc. Be prepared to make the same compromises with your friends if he brings it up though!





be sure to tell him how happy you are you can be so honest with each other etc too. thsi will stop you looking like a jealous, controlling person!





good luck, sounds like you have a guy you love so try to focus on that rather than any negatives. it is natural to want to protect the things you love, but keep it in perspective!Question about another girl liking my boyfriend.....?
if i was in your situation





i would trust him





see if he stops texting you as much or stops talkin to you as much





if this happens you might be right





but to what you explained i dont think he likes her





and she is way to young to be dating a 20 year old i wouldnt worry
its a hard situation.. i would feel the same exact way if i was you ive been dating my boyfriend 2 months only and i love him nd get jealous pretty easy i guess my friends would agree. and theres def been a few girls that made me feeel uneasy texting him constantly.. but this is the thing.. even tho i get so worried sometimes that something mite happen w. another grl i have to step back and realize that this is my boyfriend. if i cant trust him enough to not cheat on me then he shouldnt be my boyfriend. and theres nothing you can do to stop it but just decide for yourself if u trust that he wont do something and if u do then everything will be fine. and if he does then good for him.his loss you deserve so much better
FORGET IT.


There's no such thing as a BF that lives 1200 miles away.


There's so much distance between all three of you (TX, OH, %26amp; CO), not to mention all of you are too young to know how to manage a relationship if the guy was right next door.


Frankly, no 20-year-old guy wants anything (really) from a 15 year old girl 2000 miles away.


I'd bet he's really got a girl his own age in his own home-town (in Ohio) and you don't even know it. Duh, YDI.


Drop all the drama, find a BF that lives in your home-town.


This is a bunch of silliness.
All you can really do is be honest with him. if he is as cool as you say he is, he will take your warning and keep an eye out and his guard up.


just tell him you have a bad feeling about this girl and you get a VERY strong feeling that she likes him more then a friend... In all honesty, it is a little wierd that a 20YO and a 15YO are friends and the 15 YO is going to visit him... that just sounds fishy to me... you should trust your gut!