If I stop fighting about it... (nagging) will it help?

I've been with my boyfriend forever it seems. We dated for 3 years in high school, broke up for 2 in college (college changes relationships a lot i swear), had an on and off for about a year, and then have been pretty solid for the last 2-3years. I don't know if you'd wanna count that as 6+ years or just 2, depending on how you look at it.





He spends 2 nights a week at my place, and I spend 3 nights at his. I am getting exhausted from packing my work with me to spend the night. He has to do the same (bringing work laptop, work clothes, etc) Then when he got his dog it's even more exhausting because he can't spend as much time at my place as I can with him. We sit around at his place til later in the evening so that we can let the dog out 1 more time... then we leave for my place at around 9pm.





Then in the morning we wake up, and one of us has to either get ready at the other's place or wake up early, drive home for an hour, then leave from work from there.





It's draining. He's buying a house and isn't ';ready'; to move in with me and he's bringing his annoying roommate with him.





I find myself saying things like, ';If we were living together, you forgetting a work shirt never would be an issue.'; or, ';If we were living together we wouldn't be twiddling our thumbs for 3 hours so we can walk your dog one more time for the night.'; (I live in an apartment that doesn't allow dogs otherwise I'd let the dog come)





I talk about it with him all the time because I'm just exhausted from packing. I have a nice place and 2 cats and I am getting tired of going over there, especially with his smothering roommate.





Anyway.... do you think if I just shut up, stop nagging, and just enjoy our time together it'll make it easier for him to consider to make that next step together? We're only 25 so I realize we're young but some days I just get so MAD when its 0 degrees outside in MN winter, and we're unloading our cars at 9:30 at night, when most people can just settle and curl up under a warm blanket for the night, but we spend half our days playing musical houses.





Perhaps by me mentioning the issue constantly he's pushing me away because I'm always nagging??? If so, what's a good way to help me bite my tongue.





Besides this issue, we have a pretty good relationship.If I stop fighting about it... (nagging) will it help?
OMG!!! Cats meet dog and all hell brakes loose I wish you luckIf I stop fighting about it... (nagging) will it help?
You see here, the major issue you have is real but somehow you got around it. He doesn't seem to have room for you in his life. Your rendevous are just cuz he doesn't want to be alone, and you fullfill that. This ';convenient'; when I need a girl situation is only going to drive you crazy because you actually have feelings for him. He, on the other hand, is familiar and comfortable with you. It's bold for me to say it, but am I wrong?


Here's how you know. Leave. If he wants you, he'll chase you, no question about it. If he doesn't make an effort to make you a priority, than you are wasting your effort making him one.


Honestly girl, you guys are sexually active right? He has no other girl at the moment, right? He lives with a roomate but he can't live with you? He also has a dog. I'm not saying you guys should live together, I'm just seeing that he wants you close enough to kill time, but far away enough when he finds someone he wants.