I can't stop crying. I just broke it off with my boyfriend. Do you think I'm justified, was he wrong?PL help?

So my boyfriend and I have been having a rough time latelt, esp these three days. He's been rude, and because I don't want to take it anymore I told him only when he's nice we'll talk on the phone at night, so because of that we hung yesterday and day before. Day before he aplogized, yesterday he didn't. Now he was out with his friends all day today so he was real tired and I had inboxed him something relating to our fight last night pouring out my heart to him telling him how the little things hurt me, and asked why he didn't reply, here's the convo :





Him:


sup?





Me


nm you?





Him


really really tired!





Me:


read inbox?





Him:


ya





Me:


no rpely?


Him:


too tired


Me:


sick.





Him:


listen keep all this to yourself


i don't wanna reply, i wont


you can force me too?:


are you going to call me tonight?


cause i'm not going to call





Him:


Are you there? Are you sending me a huge inbox or something?





Then he messaged saying hes gonna go to bed instead of hoping I'd reply sometime, so I messaged him saying ';You mean, someDAY!'; and he replies ';Your call babe'; like wtf :'(





I ended our relation right now. I'm hysterical :'( He messaged me ';Thanks for givin me a punch in the stomach just when I need you the most';


We were completing a year this month :'(I can't stop crying. I just broke it off with my boyfriend. Do you think I'm justified, was he wrong?PL help?
Hmmm, let me guess, some assumptions I would make about you and him:


1) you're both teenagers


2) he was your first serious relationship


3) you probably had sex the first time with him





Hon, he's not that in to you.


If he were he would be more active about getting in touch with you.


Both of you sound very young, from an age and emotional standpoint. I have news for you, he's a boy, not a man, a boy. He will behave like a boy when you 'pour your heart out to him.'


Rather than gumming up his inbox, try cold turkey. No messages, no text, no nothing until he sends something more substantial to you than 'sup.





If he was being rude, that means he lacks respect for you.


You probably won't take my advice. But perhaps you're better off backing away from this, cooling off, and then trying slowly to find the right relationship with a man. It hurts now, but you will get over it.





Or you need to be very specific with him about how you want to be addressed: an example ';when you ignore me when you're with your friends, it makes me feel as if I'm not as important.'; I haven't met a guy yet who could read someone else's mind. You need to be direct and specific with guys, they don't pick up on the emotional cues the same way women do (especially teen guys, most are clueless)I can't stop crying. I just broke it off with my boyfriend. Do you think I'm justified, was he wrong?PL help?
keep talking to him! maybe he will realize hes being a dbag and if/when you get back together he will be nicer because he knows you wont stay with him if he continues to be a jerk. make sure he knows exactly why you dumped him so he knows what he is doing that makes you mad.
If he is going to be like that, then i think you done the right thing by ending it !


By the sound of it, you can do alot better than him baby girl.





just keep youre head up, and in time thing's will get better :D





kevin malcolm :D
The world is better that you two aren't together anymore. He sounds like a winner. Sounds like he is just holding onto you for the attention but doesn't actually like you.
you're way better off with out him...be strong and do go back...you don't deserve to be treated like that and him saying you gave him a punch in the stomach when he needed you the most was just a manipulation tactic
TELL HIM HE SHOULD THO ABOUT THAT YEAR COMPLETION WHEN HE WAS BEING A PAIN IN THE BUTT EARLIER!!
I think ur being a little pushly here, just try to lay off. He may be wrong at somewhere at ur point of view but he also needs some time with his friends.





hope that helps!
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awwwww this is really sad sounds like he really does like you...he was probably reall tired 4real! u shudda given him a chance:((((
:'(
';We were completing a year this month ';.. HAHAHA no you're not!!
He sounds like an idiot
fix things with him
It sounds like he could have been a bit more sensitive, but on the same token, so could you. If he's tired don't push, just wait. On his side, if someone sends you a message like that you need to go over and talk to them about it, not be a jerk about answering back. You have a right to be angry, but try as hard as you can to look at everything from his side.


What you need to ask yourself is do you want this to be over. If you can't handle the relationship anymore, no matter it's your fault or his, then you did the right thing. If not, then try fixing things.
ohh no im really sorry, i know going through rough times are hard but you should try and work through it, and if it continues to happen then you should have broken up with him.. maybe he has had a lot on his mind lately, hence the 'thanks for giving me a punch in the stomach when i need you the most' tell him you made a huge mistake, and were just really upset and confused at the time and didnt know what you were doing - if you want him back that is! xx
Ah...teen angst and drama. Nothing in your whole life will be as dramatic as these years and you will look back and wonder what you were thinking. Just remember sometimes doing things in haste and anger are hard to take back...hopefully a life lesson.


That being said, Dear Heart, you will recover, I promise. Just take it a day at a time.


TC
Im sorry to hear that. I know its rough i just broke up with mine but for worse reasons. well all i have to say if he doesn't want to talk or text, just leave him alone. its says when he need you the most? have you asked what happened? if not do so let him no you care about his feelings and that you don't feel like he cares for yours. you need to talk it out even though its hard not to argue.DONT. eventually he will give in and talk to you. If you guys were meant to be then it will all work out just give it time. good luck!
If he is having a hard time it sounds like maybe he is best left alone anyway. Some people are not good at being in a relationship and dealing with stressful things in life. They think they have to do more in their relationship than necessary. Don't let him hurt you in the process. If he is ready to be in a relationship and be sweet to you, then consider it later when he is all healed up with whatever he is going through. Maybe tell him if he really needs you, then to call and you will be there for him if he wants to talk...
You should be like '; Thanks for giving ME a punch in the stomach just when I needed YOU the most!!'; Sorry, but that's plain stupid. He's not thinking about your feelings. Sometimes you gotta show a guy that you can also be a b****. MOVE ON. He's not worth your time. I'm sure someone in the future will learn to appreciate your love for them :)
personally..seems like a very small issue. be more understanding, the guy is tired. on the other side, he should be a little more sensitive. heres a question for you...how do YOU feel when your tired and your mom is nagging you? might be similar to what he was feeling at the moment. just because you were well rested and feeling ok doesnt mean he is or anyone else around you is in your condition.





he needs you....
ok look sweetheart it's not your fault, or his. you said you'd been dating for awhile. people grow apart. it happens. people get bored, need something new, it's human nature. now what happend was he started feeling this way. but as guys (well most, strait, guys anyways) we don't really no how to tell the person we love that we're just not in love with them anymore. cause no matter how we do it someone still gets hurt. so what happens is our minds kick in to defensive mode we feel the best coarse of action( at least for us) is to start being a complete dick and start fight. because this sets to things in motion. 1. you dont feel guilt when your pissed off so in turn you dont feel the emotional pain that comes with what your doing and 2. you get what you want. the other person gets sick of it and breaks up with you. granted it's an extremely selfish way to go but sometimes you cant help yourself. at the end of the day self preservation is the most basic of human instinct. now the way you can tell if im right about this is if he moves on like you were never there, than im right and he was just looking for an easy way out. if he tries to work it out than im not as smart as i thought lol. i no this probally doesn't make you feel much better but hopefully it will help you understand what ( i believe ) he was going threw and understanding is the key to moving on. good luck
I would really talk to him because if you guys were going on a year and there's chemistry there and you still have feelings for him, then he most likely has them for you too. So just sincerely talk to him, if he doesn't talk to you and explain things and tell you that he still has all these feelings for you as well then just maybe it's time to move on. best of luck to you two.
oh no it must b super hard for you and you might feel like your world is ending right now.. trust me i know the feeling....





maybe what you just did was a rude awaking for him and will make him open his eyes and realizes that he was wrong or treating you so badly...





and if there is real love don't worry because love always finds a way back...
I think you both wasted a year of your life. Didn't give your age


but it seems you need some outside activity and not just him.


Don't sell yourself short on relationships cause you will get the


short end of it . Didn't you ?Don't have time for his call and do other things,and quit being so available. Pick up dancing don't they have available for you as a single girl to participate in ? Go to exercise classes take up music , piano or something and get on with your life.


Don't waste it it is shorter than you think.
Get some exercise - HARD exercise. It will calm you down and level your emotions.





The guy is an immature jerk.





You will be upset for a while, but exercise A LOT, it will keep you calm and give you focus.





He will be BEGGING for you to take him back in 3-5 days. Do not call him. Do not accept his calls. Cut him off.





IF he isn't BEGGING for you to take him back in a few days - he isn't worth your time anyway.
i dont think he is respecting u enough, or is willing to put enough time into ur relationship, tell him that if he wanted to have maintained the relationship that he should have thought about those things b4, and plus u mentioned all that stuff about being rude b4, and he didnt rilly try to improve this.





him telling u that u gave him a punch in the stomach when he needed u most is just him trying to get u back, tell him that if he even wants a chance at getting u back is going to have to try harder than that, n actually make a change.





goodluck!
sounds like it's your fault....


dude honey!


sometimes when guys are tired they don't wanna do anything and are pissed off at anyone for anything.


you took it too seriously and asked him at a bad time


you should've asked him during a time when you were sure he's happy enough to talk to you,not late at night when he's dying to sleep!
im pretty much in the same situation as you are right now......me and him had been together fo 15 months....i cut it off with him yesturday morning and then we talked last night...he was sad and i just told him to give us not being together till friday. Its to test how we both feel.....im just tired of wanting to talk to him and he acts like an ***.....continue ur daily routine as if nothinngs really changed and see how you feel.....let it be like 3 days or a week though
Ask yourself why exactly are you stressing about this relationship? is it because there is really something wrong or you are so insecure about the relationship and need constant reassurance? If you can't find any LEGIT reason for this fight then don't have it. The boy may be stressed, tired or not in the mood. Just like you have ups and downs, guys have them too. Just give him his space...you are crowding him right now and he's already got one foot out the door. The more you obsess and stress him out with talking about the relationship, the more he'll want to bolt.





Pouring your heart out to guys when you are having a fight ALMOST NEVER WORKS. The more you force a guy to do what you want the less he'll comply and the more he'll resent you for this. Give him space and when he's feeling better he'll apologize and talk to you. And when you've discussed an issue, LEt IT REST!!